You will find that I talk a lot about my youngest son, Austin. Although, I love both sons equally and treat them both the same, there are several reasons why you won't read much about my oldest, Brian. First and foremost, its out of respect for his mother. I do not know, and nor will I ever ask, how she would feel about me posting on my blog about him. As a set of four parents, we have a working relationship and the last thing I need is to throw a wrench in such a delicate relationship. There are enough outside forces to do that for us.
But the main reason that I won't talk about him as much is because when I met my husband, Brian's situation was already pretty stable. Gavin and his ex-wife had already been divorced for 5 years when we met and they have pretty much worked out the visitation and financial responsibility before I ever entered the picture. Even though the situation is in no way perfect, it works a majority of the time. And for the last several years we have had a minimum amount of problems, most of which could be solved through a few text messages.
Most of my learning experiences came through Austin's situation, so when I refer to things that I've learned while being a smommy, it will probably have to do with Austin. I had been with my husband for 2 months when we gained primary custody of Austin. He was not in the greatest shape and I quickly learned a LOT about being a mom and stepmom. Those are the experiences that I wish to share with other smommies; what I learned, how I would have done it differently, what was my proudest moment in that situation, etc.
We have to stick together somehow, and building a relationship on understanding is the first step. I think.
Be Brave,
Smommy Meredith
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